(Many of you know my interest in The Five Love Languages book by Dr. Gary Chapman. In fact, those principles are fundamental to my own book.
A friend and I were talking lately, and she noted that God speaks to us in the love languages, and that we can respond to Him in the same manner. She talked about her language of quality time and how vital her perconal worship time was to her and to Him. I had thought about this a little - my language is acts of service and I have to constantly make sure that the reason I do things for the Lord is truly out of love for Him and not because it looks good on my resume. Yet I had never really grasped the concept of Him loving me through the many things He has done for me.)
Then this Sunday, I heard an excellent sermon on love and unity from Ephesians 4:1-16, that led to an interesting conversation. While reading a cross refrence, I was given this receipt of the services He has rendered to me: "If you have any encouragement from being united with Christ, if any comfort from his love, if any fellowship with the Spirit, if any tenderness and compassion, then make my joy complete by being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose."
"Yes, I've received encouragement, comfort, fellowship, tenderness and compassion!!!"
I was touched that He didn't reply, "Well, then pay up!" He said, "Make My joy complete."
I eagerly reread the verses. "What does He want me to do? I'm there! I'm on it!"
And the simple answer was, "Being like-minded, having the same love, being one in spirit and purpose."
"Oh man. Sorry, I can' t do that. There are some Christians who I do not see eye to eye with!"
"The same love...in spirit and in purpose...if your purpose is the same, to honor and glorify Me, then you shouldn't ahve a problem."
I was still a little worried about this unity thing - I'd been in a church before where Christian unity meant everyone has the same car, dresses the same, educates their kids the same adn anyone threatening to be different was disturbing the unity.
Thankfully, the sermon was still moving along and we were in Ephesians 4 again. Being humble, gentle, patient, bearing with one another...lovingly even. "Yup, I'm guilty."
We went on to discuss one body, one spirit, one hope, one faith, one Lord, one God, one baptisim: the Father of all, who is over all, and through all in all.
"Yeah, ok I get it already! One and all - it's the same unity thing again. You know, I've really been enjoying learning about diversity this last couple years. What about that?!"
I'm sure the Lord and Paul were smiling at each other. "Read the next bit, Jenna."
"But...to each one of us grace has been given as Christ apportioned it....It was He who gave some to be apostles, some to be prophets, some to be evangelists, adn some to be pastors adn teachers, so that the body of Christ may be built up until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ."
"Oh, ok. Right. Everyone has different love languages and different spiritual gifts. And when we all start growing up, there will be unity."
Just then, the pastor put it into words for me (it was in French, so this is not word for word, but the meaning wais still there). "When we search for love, truth and peace, unity is found."
My mind went back to the list of service He daily does for me - I guess I tend to take them for granted, like when someone does the dishes and laundry all the time - you come to just expect it. Of course, I see them as services, though the beautiful thing is, any love language can relate. Any encouragement, any comfort from His love, any fellowship with the Spirit, any tenderness and compassion.
"Lord, I am sorry that I have not been showing You love and giving you back what You desire. Teach me to be humble, gentle, patient, bearing in love, making every effort to keep the unity in the bond of peace. Thank you for my fellow Christians and their many different colors, flavors, gifts and language. Unite me with them in love as we all grow up in You."
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